5 Reasons Why I Am Not A Crunchy Mom.




There is a word on the interwebs and beyond used to describe moms like me. That word is, “crunchy.”

According to Urban Dictionary, ‘Crunchy Mom’ is defined as,

“A member of an increasingly growing group of moms who are neo-hippies. They generally believe (for varying reasons) that there is something bad or less beneficial about buying mainstream products or doing other common activities in the mainstream way.”
Someone who is generally described as crunchy usually does at least one of the following, but usually more:




-Breastfeeds beyond 6 months and often times beyond one year.
-Cosleeps.
-Wears their baby.
-Attempts a natural birth.
-Favors natural remedies for sickness.
-Uses cloth diapers or practices EC (elimination communication).
-Eats a healthy diet and avoids commercial junk food for herself and her family.
-Is Anti Routine Infant Circumcision.
And the list goes on….

I really like that so many people are questioning common practices and choosing to do better for themselves and their families, so much so that this group of people has been given a special name. While crunchy things can certainly be trendy, such as amber teething necklaces and bulky Ergo carriers (for the record, I love my ergo), there are some things I find odd that we classify as “crunchy” behavior. Why is it that what I see as so normal and biologically necessary we call “crunchy?” I am not doing it to be a certain type of person or to belong to a certain group of people. I am simply doing it because it is what you do when you have a baby. I never liked being called crunchy for these reasons but accepted it at times in order to find people who thought more along the same lines as I did. Here are 5 reasons why I do not consider myself to be a crunchy mom:




1) Because I do not see breastfeeding as a choice or a health trend. I see it as the next physiologically normative step in having a child.

Two people have sex, they conceive a baby,  the woman gives birth to baby and the baby feeds from the breast. It is why all women were given breasts, was to nurse babies. I do not breastfeed to be trendy. I breastfeed because according to nature, upon my child being born, my body and my child are expecting me to breastfeed. I don’t make the rules, that’s just how it is. I eat food, I poop it out. That is the biological process. Maybe sometimes I am constipated, maybe I get a hernia and have some road bumps along the way, but pooping should happen, none the less. I see breastfeeding to be just as a given as pooping. Inevitably there will always be someone who argues that not all women can breastfeed, and it is true. Given the way we live, what we eat and our levels of stress it is no wonder that some women’s bodies have a hard time functioning the way they are intended to and one of these ways is  having a hard time with breastfeeding. With that said, less than a third of women are still breastfeeding at the six-month mark. That is a devastatingly low number and should be seen as a public health concern. I do not believe that all those women could truly not breastfeed. I believe we greatly lack breastfeeding support and education in this country and with more of that the rates will improve.

2) Because mammals sleeping with their young is a biological imperative, not something you get to ignore in order to have a Thomas the Train nursery.

If you look around at the other mammals such as the primates who are most like us, they are not having babies and then putting them in a cute nursery with a pretty mural in a separate room across the forest. Naturally, they are sleeping with their babies. It is not something they have to think about, consider or ponder over. This happens just as naturally as breastfeeding. When you have a baby, sleeping with your baby is simply part of the process. There are many reasons why nature wants us to sleep with our babies. First, it has them feeling safe. They have just entered a big scary world outside of the womb and the safest place is with their mother. Second, it regulates body temperature. Third, it makes the expected breastfeeding relationship easier and more successful because babies have to eat at night, too.




According to Anthropology Director at The University of Notre Dame, James J. McKenna Ph.D.,

“But it’s not just breastfeeding that promotes bedsharing. Infants usually have something to say about it too! And for some reason they remain unimpressed with declarations as to how dangerous sleeping next to mother can be. Instead, irrepressible (ancient) neurologically-based infant responses to maternal smells, movements and touch altogether reduce infant crying while positively regulating infant breathing, body temperature, absorption of calories, stress hormone levels, immune status, and oxygenation. In short, and as mentioned above, cosleeping (whether on the same surface or not) facilitates positive clinical changes including more infant sleep and seems to make, well, babies happy. In other words, unless practiced dangerously, sleeping next to mother is good for infants. The reason why it occurs is because… it is supposed to.”

Of course, this isn’t always easy because while we are meant to be sleeping with our babies, we were also meant to not raise children alone. Tribal living ensured that the demanding job of raising children wasn’t solely on the shoulders of one person. It is no wonder that parents sometimes find themselves resorting to unfavorable actions in order to get a decent night’s sleep so that they can be a decently functioning parent during the day. I recommend finding what works for your family by still doing your best to meet the very real and legitimate needs of your child. If bed sharing isn’t working then put a foam mat on the floor or a bassinet next to your bed. Have the other parent help out at night if that is an option. Eat a healthy diet and exercise to make up for energy lost at night. Above all, I think we should live simpler lifestyles and reduce our stress during the day in order to have more peaceful nights.

3) Because pacifiers took the place of the nipple, not the other way around.
I’ll be honest, I find it rather amusing when someone proclaims, “That baby is using you as a pacifier!” This person has obviously not considered that the nipple was there first and things such as pacifiers were invented to mimic the job that was originally intended for the breast. So really, we should be proclaiming that babies use pacifiers as nipples because that is more accurate. This is another one of those things where I find myself saying, “I don’t make the rules…” I do not avoid pacifiers and bottles because I am crunchy. I avoid them because my nipples work just fine. They don’t cost any money and my son benefits from the natural medium of nutrients and comfort, just as all other mammals.




4) I don’t birth naturally, outside of a hospital setting because I am a crunchy, hippie free spirit. I do it because my normal healthy body isn’t expecting any interventions in the natural process of birth.
I know it seems like I talk about poop a lot but it is only because it makes for a good, simple analogy. I don’t birth at the hospital for the same reason I don’t go to the hospital to poop. Sure, birth has more posed risks, but it is just as normal and natural for a low-risk woman. The body was made to give birth, the body knows what to do. Most of the things in birth go wrong because the natural process was interrupted. Can you imagine trying to go poop and every time you had to go people were coming in and checking on you, telling you to lay on your back, hooking you up to machines and sticking a tube up your butt? How do you think pooping would go then? Probably not that well. For women who are considered to be having a healthy, normal pregnancy, going to the hospital greatly puts them at risk for things going wrong. From artificially inducing before the body is ready to go into labor to pushing in a position that isn’t conducive for getting a baby out, things are bound to come up. Also, know that many of the reasons a woman is deemed “high risk” is preventable or false. One example of a woman being told she needs intervention when she really doesn’t is when she is told her baby is too big to go through the birth canal and must be C-sectioned out. Always be informed and do your own research. For many people, things like gestational diabetes can be regulated and even avoided completely with proper diet and healthy lifestyle.

5) Because not removing the foreskin of my baby’s penis shouldn’t categorize me any more than not removing his eyelids.
This is probably the most frustrating one of all. I am actually considered “crunchy” because I kept my son’s penis….normal. What is next? Are we going to have words for people who keep their daughter’s ears’ normal? Why is ‘uncircumcised’ even a word? Do we call women who still have their breasts unmasectomized? No. Again, adhering to what is physiologically normal, abiding by natural laws and not intervening with nature should not make someone “crunchy.” The foreskin of the penis is just as relevant and important as any other part. Yes, it is only a part, but it is a part that makes up the whole. It has many vital functions from sexual to self-cleansing to immunological protection and more. Unfortunately, much of our society has been brainwashed into believing that mutilating genitals is somehow beneficial, but it is not in any way, and I shouldn’t be classified for not falling for it.




 

While I love that we can have labels that better (but not always) helps us find our tribe, I do not like that normal, biological parenting has become a “thing.” I do not like that I am being categorized as a certain type of person for doing what I am meant to do as a human being who gives birth to a baby. I am not trying to be trendy, I am just trying to follow the natural laws the best I can in a highly industrialized society. I was born into this society so I am ill equipped for the truly natural world (alone, at that), therefore I am not perfect. I live in a house and drive a car, all of which are not natural, but when it comes to my baby there are some things even the most industrialized and commercialized worlds cannot take away from me. That is my God given body and all that it was made to do for me and my baby.
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109 Comments

  1. I do those things too. If someone wants to call me crunchy, great. If they want to assume I do it to be trendy, great. I do what I do because I feel it’s best for my family.Any labels and assumptions beyond that are other peoples problems not mine.
    But that being said, I had my first child 16 years ago and did no crunchy things- for various reasons. Yeah, crunchy parenting is ‘trendy’, but I see it as bringing to light the knowledge that there are more options to raising children, that people like me didn’t know we’re available or possible before. I see it as doing things that happen to be crunchy as opposed to doing things to be crunchy.

  2. While I 100% agree with everything you wrote and know exactly where you are coming from, I do wish you hadn’t compared breastfeeding as natural as an act of pooping.

    That is exactly what the anti-public breastfeeding people use as a reason that women should not feed their children in public, that it is a bodily function akin to either pooping or peeing and therefore should be done privately.

    I hope you understand where I am coming from! I totally get what you meant, I just cringed a little when you used that analogy because I believe while biological like going to the bathroom, breastfeeding is SO much more and needs to be normalized as something acceptable to do publicly.

  3. I agree. I’ve been called crunchy, granola, even crazy. I just do what feels right. One issue though: gestational diabetes cannot always be avoided through diet and exercise. I was pregnant with identical twins and ate exceptionally well, kept up gentle exercise and walking and developed it anyway. I only needed to tweak my diet a bit to manage it for the most part, but there was nothing I could do to avoid it.

  4. Gestation diabetes can be avoided? No. There’s a correlation with weight and GD but it’s just one of many predisposing factors, and women without any predisposing factors can get GD unfortunately. Would you consider editing that statement please, or providing evidence?

    1. If you can show me a woman who eats a whole foods plant based diet who has GD then I will change my statement.

      1. Yes, your comments are a bit severe regarding that. There is a genetic predisposition especially among certain cultures (Hispanic and Asian women being at higher risk). No, I can’t show you the plant based diet evidence, but I can show you genetically based research. And I think making these mamas out as having been able to do more when perhaps they could not have is too harsh.

      2. I think that you need to do some serious research about GD before you go about blaming the mother for developing it and making her feel more guilty than she already does. There is a big difference between type one, type two and gestational diabetes. Gestational diabetes is a placental issue which is why as soon as the woman gives birth and the placenta is expelled the diabetes issue goes away… I, like many women had it, and I can tell you I am extremely careful about what I eat… it made me feel horrible. Think about that before you write statements based on facts you conjured up from the internet, it makes you sound extremely ignorant and immature to people who are actually educated on the subject

        1. Please RE read what I wrote. I said that in MANY (not all) cases it can be REGULATED (not avoided completely) or avoided altogether with healthy diet and lifestyle. Then I provided a link with a study that supports the idea.

      3. Don’t you think you should be basing your statements on scientific evidence versus requesting an anecdote from a stranger on the internet? And the fact that you would so readily change your article based on something so arbitrary says something as well. How about this… if you can show your readers scientific evidence that states a whole foods, plant based diet will prevent GD, then you can keep your statement. Otherwise, I find it to be socially irresponsible to digitally publish information without verifying the science behind it first.

      4. My sister:) We were raised eating fresh, organic vegetable and whole foods — no processed sugars, articfical flavors or sweetners, whole grain brown rice and quinoa, lots of beans, very little meat, only healthy oils, our sweets were mainly fresh fruit with some pastries made out of one hundred percent while wheat and molasses and honey. For the most part:) but no sodas or anything. My sister continued her healthy eating habits and when she got pregnant in college she also got GD. She just did finger pricking stuff and was fine. But she did get it despite healthy eating habits. And she was in great shape as she walked everywhere, to and from campus, to the grocery stpre and back, etc. But she did occasionally have white rice at that point and I think some white sugar ocasionally as well. But definitely definitely had a diet of mainly fresh vegetables and whole grains of various types and lots of lots of beans.

      5. Me 🙂
        I could give birth to my second son on his due date, I wasn’t induced but my midwife had to do a membrane sweep to me and his birth weight was 10.5 lb. I had a plant based wholefood diet during my whole pregnancy and I breastfeed him till he was 19 months.

  5. Agree with most of this, but the gestational diabetes I have issue with. I had (and still do have) a very healthy diet and having already lost five babies during pregnancy, I wasn’t prepared to lose this one so I tried everything I could find to help with the GD. But nothing did. I couldn’t exercise as much I did previously as my pelvis split (not SPD) very early on, although I still swam frequently until I could no longer drive at about five months.

      1. I love that this woman just shared with you that she lost five babies, and your immediate response was an implied judgement about her diet. Pretty callous, prioritizing being right over being compassionate.

        1. As a matter of fact I didn’t feel judgement at all. Genuinely curious. We all show our sympathy in different ways. Sometimes my immediate response is to help.

        2. It’s always the mother’s fault. The ate too much of X, not enough Y – if only she’d been a little more careful and a little more perfect.

          I hate this attitude.

          1. It sucks that that’s how people take it. I don’t get the mentality that we should never provide evidence based information that is helpful to people on the grounds that we might offend those who didn’t follow it. I have made uninformed choices and I’m glad someone put out good information for me to see so that I could change if that’s what I wanted. Providing helpful information isn’t placing blame on anyone. It’s not even personal. When we know better we can do better. Facts are not attacks.

    1. In our gestational diabetes support group there were many vegetarian ladies and a vegan. I remember her asking about good foods to eat to to help stick to the gd diet as she was vegan. You clearly don’t understand gestational diabetes but that’s hardly your fault as there is an assumption that only overweight people who eat lots fo sugar can get it. Please please help us in changing that. It’s simply not true and it doesn’t help when those who haven’t done their research perpetuate that stereotype.

      1. Well I am certainly not of the belief that only people who are over weight and eat a ton of sugar get it.

    2. Women with PCOS and/or hypothyroidism who are predisposed to gestational diabetes. It’s not just women who eat crap or are overweight. Some have chronic health issues that raise their chances of GD. Don’t be so narrow minded.

        1. You think that hypothyroidism can be reversed with a healthy lifestyle? You clearly don’t know what you are talking about. You are obviously just one of those judgy moms that really doesn’t know.

          1. I would be happy to introduce you to my friend Rebecca Rosenberg who reversed her hypothyroidism and MS with a complete diet change.

          2. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism when I was 19. I am 26 and have been hypothyroid free for almost 4 years. I healed it by proper diet, nutrition and excersize.

        2. I’ll let my neurologist know we don’t need to continue with my treatment for epilepsy and my cardiologist know that she can turn off my pacemaker since all I need now is to consult another nutritionist.
          Sorry to be so heavy on the sarcasm, but you’re making a lot of generalizations and I’d be willing to bet you yourself have never had a chronic illness.
          I think most of us moms that do have to deal with our poor health on a daily basis are doing everything we can to stay healthy to be able to be here for our families as long as possible, but it does get frustrating when often well meaning people tell us, “if you change x y or z you can fix it!” Trust me, if it was as easy as just changing diet anyone dealing with a truly debilitating illness would do it in a heartbeat.

          1. Now I’m being accused of giving advice for two illnesses I never even mentioned. Wow. I’ve heard it all.

            I was actually debilitatingly sick for four years. That’s what drove me to study health and find answers to cure myself. You can read a little about my story on the About Me page.

    3. My sister got GD despite what I consider to be a healthy life style. We were raised eating fresh, organic vegetable and whole foods — no processed sugars, articfical flavors or sweetners, whole grain brown rice and quinoa, lots of beans, very little meat, only healthy oils, our sweets were mainly fresh fruit with some pastries made out of one hundred percent while wheat and molasses and honey. For the most part:) but no sodas or anything. My sister continued her healthy eating habits and when she got pregnant in college she also got GD. She just did finger pricking stuff and was fine. But she did get it despite healthy eating habits. And she was in great shape as she walked everywhere, to and from campus, to the grocery stpre and back, etc. But she did occasionally have white rice at that point and I think some white sugar ocasionally as well. Not daily or anything… But definitely definitely had a diet of mainly fresh vegetables and whole grains of various types and lots of lots of beans. Her husband is pretty much vegetarian but they couldn’t afford meat then anyway lol. Anyway I’m interested to hear your thoughts:)

  6. Gestational diabetes can not be avoided with a healthy diet…. It is a placenta/hormone condition , I followed a very healthy diet and still ended up on insulin , please research properly before making sweeping statements!

    1. Same goes for the statement that circumcision is completely unbeneficial. Not because I have an opinion on whether it should be done or not, but there are several health benefits to male circumcision so please do your research before making these statements. Other than that it was an interesting read!

      1. That statement is actually false. There are zero proven health benefits of circumcision. They’ve all been debunked. Plus it was originally designed for the same reasons as female genital mutilation: To prevent masturbation and sex before marriage.

      2. Actually few if any benefits. Slightly decreased incidence of uti but antibiotics can take care of that. Very poorly done study on hiv transmission, sometimes sited but should be thrown out because the circumcised men in it were actually made to abstain from sex compared to the uncircumcised men. European countries with way lower circumcision rates have significantly less std transmission. List goes on. God put it there for a reason. It is not a birth defect.

  7. Ah, so the onus is on everyone to disprove your claim? You don’t feel any need to have supportive evidence of your own before making such an insensitive statement?

    1. I have changed the wording to more accurately say what I meant in the first place. Nothing in life is 100% all the time. My point was that it is possible to avoid many common issues in pregnancy (like GD) with a healthy diet and lifestyle. That just because it exists or we get it, we shouldn’t take it to mean that it’s poor luck or completely out of our control and we should just do what the doctor says. I still stand by this point.

  8. I’m a huge supporter of natural, healthy child-rearing – particularly when it continues past baby-hood to support creative kids! Nonetheless, the longer I work in a children’s hospital, the more tragedy I see. Please, don’t forget that other mammals also roll over onto their babies! The bassinet that hooks to the side of the bed is a wonderful solution to alleviate the dangers of bed sharing. Also, when giving birth at home, please ensure that a medical professional is present. It’s a natural process, and wonderful when done at home – but death is also a natural process, and immediate medical attention can often prevent it.

    Keep crunching, mamas! 🙂

  9. PS It’s interesting that you think you’re a feminist with that “you need to judge other women” article. I promise you you’re not a feminist with that ideology. “Crunchy” does not equal feminist.

    1. 1) I didn’t write an article suggesting we judge other moms. I suggested that we judge harmful practices that some parents do.

      2) where did you read that I was a feminist?

  10. A good read. I fully agree! I only wonder why you didn’t say anything about vaccinations. I hope that you also trust your children’s bodies to develop a healthy immune system, and you do not pollute their bodies with toxic vaccines.

    1. I didn’t wanna overwhelm the readers too much 😉 Stay tuned for my next post on this very topic. There’s a subscribe box on my page so you’ll get notified. Thanks for reading!

    2. What a shame for all those children whose bodies aren’t “capable of developing immunity” (most children) – or even coping with vaccination- that parents who are too selfish and stupid to vaccinate destroy the herd immunity and pose life threatening risks to them.

      1. Your comments are illiterate, Judith. Research what the term “herd immunity” really means. It’s your contagious shedding vaccinated children who are ruining the concept of herd immunity and the population at large. You have obviously done ZERO research on vaccination. Go to http://www.thinktwice.com and http://www.nvic.org to start learning about the dirty truth. Watch VAXXED. Just a little intro into the whistle blower, Dr. William Thompson, Senior CDC scientist who came forward with damning information against the CDC and all vaccine manufacturers.

  11. I truly believe, to each their own… This was an interesting read, I agree with some but not all… Patenting comes from each mother’s and fathers own experiences and family history. We are all doing what we think is best for our children. I have a child that if born not at a hospital wouldn’t be here today or at the very least, had her entire life changed because of not having medical intervention immediately after birth. Im not against home birthing, I am just glad I had the prenatal care and dr.s to help me decide where was the best place to have her. But please, please stop comparing and amazing event like child birth and growing a human in your body to taking daily dumps. Child birth is huge amazing life altering and no matter the decisions made leading up to it or after should never be placed in a comparison with taking a crap on a toilet. Please!

    1. Sorry you took it that way 🙁 of course child birth isn’t equal to taking a crap. I used the analogy to demonstrate a normal biological process. Pooping is normal. It’s what humans do. Giving birth is normal. It’s what humans do. Like that 🙂

  12. After my experience, blogs like this just sound so naive. If it weren’t for medical intervention, aka c-section, my baby would have died. My body never went into labor and I was 42 weeks monitoring the baby daily and her heart beat stated to fade. I didn’t want to be induced for the reasons you state above, but in the end I’m thankful for the doctors who helped my baby be born and wonder if the induction I refused to have would have mitigated some of the trauma. If I hadn’t been in a doctor’s care I wouldn’t have my daughter. So think about that next time you think all women’s bodies just do what they need to in their own time.

    1. Can you show me where I said “all women’s bodies?” I think I used the term “low risk” at least two times. A fading heart beat sounds risky to me.

  13. Thanks for writing this. i have felt like that for years and years, but it seems that i cannot loose the “crunchy” label. I do think it is important to point these points out. There is nothing weird, hippie or neo-hippie about following nature.

    1. A fading heartbeat can happen at any point during any labor. Low risks, home birth, etc. Fetal distress is caused by nuchal cords, lack of placental perfusion, etc. Only difference is that in a hospital, your baby is a hell of a lot less likely to die. Good luck dealing with the 10 min you have to get that baby out on your living room floor.

  14. I agree with all except the GD. I believe GD can be managed naturally but not avoided. I managed mine with healthier foods and such but I already ate healthy, before during and after babies, it just happens. It’s another of your bodies natural responses to child birth. Your body changes and you experience different things like GD, preeclampsia, blood pressure spikes, migraines etc. yes most can be managed without prescriptions etc but not necessarily avoided. This from a person who does not eat fast foods, does not eat fried foods (at all), bakes everything, cooks all meals from scratch no boxes or cans here, rarely ever eats candy (since childhood I would choose a banana over a chocolate) , plenty of fresh veggies and fruits, no sodas, sparing amounts of juices (4oz or so per day). So my already healthy diet didn’t prevent or avoid GD. And I had it with 2 out of my 3 pregnancies. I believe in doing things as naturally as possible, but I also believe medical conditions that have treatments can and should be taken advantage of if possible and necessary. And to the people pointing out that they HAD to have their children via cesarean and that their child needed immediate neonatal care after birth so hospital was the only option that’s fine and the author clearly, multiple times, stated “low risk healthy pregnancies could deliver outside of a hospital” if you had medical issues or your child had medical issues that HAD to be treated at a hospital then you do not fall into the low risk category, so she wasn’t referring to you.

    1. Yes! I exercised, ate a mostly plant-based diet and was very careful about my sugar and carbohydrate intake while pregnant (and before that, too!) but was diagnosed with GD. It can most definitely be regulated with diet and physical activity, but it cannot be avoided for some. Great read, but I think the verbiage is a little insensitive to the reality that GD is not always linked to sugar, HFCS, and carbohydrates.

      1. And I hear you. That’s why I used words like “many” instead of “all” and “regulate” instead of “cure” and then provided a link to back my claim.

    2. I didn’t realize that life-threatening complications can only happen to women who are deemed at-risk. Low risk women never experience unforeseen issues that require emergency intervention. Not. My sister-in-law is one of them and she’s not the only one I know of either. This is why, even with that clarification, the promotion of at home birth as safe or even preferable is completely irresponsible. Maybe crunchy wouldn’t have such a negative connotation if it didn’t include embracing and promoting potentially life-threatening behavior. I’m all for breastfeeding, co-sleeping, eating whole foods, etc. Those are great. But stop being so outright dismissive and suspicious of modern science and medicine. Its possible to embrace more natural, wholesome solutions while taking advantage of the life-saving improvements modern medicine gives us.

      1. A higher percentage of women and babies die in the hospital than at home. Of course , unforeseen things happen all the time at home. They did with me! And midwives are trained and equipped to handle all of it. 99% of homebirth transfers are non emergencies. It’s a very calm and matter of fact thing. I even bled a bit and my midwives took care of that.

  15. I agree with everything. although I almost had a home birth almost two months ago when I had my baby girl, i went most of my pregnancy planning on it. But my main reasons I didn’t was that I was thirty minutes away from a hospital in case something happened… And I just didn’t have all the money to give to the midwife… Even though the hospital cost much more. I ended up hemorrhaging after giving birth and I lost a lot of blood and fast! this was my third baby and it had nvr happened before but on both of those I was already on pinicon. I was given a shot of pitocin, a shot of something else that was supposed to help and then given a bag of pitocin. I don’t know if a midwife could had stopped my bleeding… I not too sure I would have made it to the hospital. I thank God that I was in that hospital… I believe in natural 100% but I know that sometimes unnatural intervention is needed. I didn’t even really think about myself when I worried about being too far away from a hospital of course I thought about my little girl and if something happen to her how I’d deal with myself. Turns out I’m the one that needed to be at the hospital.

  16. I agree with all your points, but the one about gestational diabetes. I was normal weight starting my pregnancy, didn’t gain a ton, and eat a real food diet (paleo-ish), and I still got it. I do believe my case was mild enough to be managed without medication because of my lifestyle, but it did not prevent it entirely. I had to make a number of tweaks, thanks to the book Real Food for Gestational Diabetes for bringing all those to light (it was opposite of what the hospital dietitian told me), to do it though.

    Anyways, overall a good round up. Keep crunchin’, mamas!

      1. Lol. I have two healthy, naturally delivered babies. Ate a pretty high fat paleo diet for years before, during, and after my pregnancies. No GD. So. Yeah. A diet being high in fat maybe not so much a factor when body fat isn’t high. Also, though you claim to not be judgmental, that line about parents not cosleeping because they value a cute nursery over the health of their baby is highly judgmental. Or at least, I inferred a lot of judgment from the way it’s worded. (PS. I coslept and nursed both my kids, so this is not said out of me feeling personally offended or judged in any way.)

        1. Well I never implied that eating paleo guaranteed the onset of GD. Obviously a lot of people eat the modern day Atkins diet and don’t have GD.

          I also don’t think there is anything wrong with judging certain things. In the same way I don’t think judging child molesters is bad. I don’t think judging harmful practices done to children is bad. It’s all about how we present the information. Check out my other blog titled, “Why I Think Judging Parenting Practices is Necessary.”

          1. Well then – just know that I’m judging you for your irresponsible decision for have an at-home birth. This is much riskier than not cosleeping. So – who is the most irresponsible mom? The one who puts her baby in a nursery so she can actually squeeze in a few minutes of sleep between feedings or the one who risks her babies life to give birth at home? I’m sure co sleeping provides lots of benefits for the babies, but at the same time, not co sleeping doesn’t have any huge drawbacks for the baby either. This is why judging some parental practices is completely stupid. Save your energy for things that actually have a noticeable impact on healthy development – for instance – child abuse. This is why its okay to judge them and not a non co-sleeping parent. Anyway, its obvious you care about your kids and are thus jumping through all the hoops you feel you need to, but not everyone agrees with you on these issues so, even though they care just as much about their kid, they are going to make very different choices. This does not make them a lesser mom, just one with a different style. Good luck on your endeavors, I just hope you learn to approach life and others with a bit more love and an open mind.

          2. If you feel lesser by my parenting choices then I won’t take that on. I always find it interesting when i talk about how I parent and why and people think I’m some how saying that means they are lesser. Nope. This is my blog and I’m sharing my opinion based on evidence on why I do things. Also birthing at home has shown to be a safe option for low risk women. If I were in the hospital they would have c sectioned me because I had a posterior baby who took a really long time to come out.

  17. Most of the article I agreed with except the hospital part….just because naturally in the wild my son and I would have both died during child birth doesn’t mean I shouldn’t have taken advantage of our technology and wonderful surgeons and just died..death is so natural, but I would still choose getting operated on to save my baby’s life anyday over us dying together!
    Although circumcision isn’t natural, but we came from a generation where it was very common and we have to think about our son’s mental health and their fragile psyches and how much little boys look up to their daddys so it’s going to be weird and unsettling for a little boy when he sees his daddy naked and asked “why am I not like you?”

    1. 1) sounds like you were high risk. I mentioned this is the best option for low risk women twice. But people’s emotions seem to over look that detail.

      2) because abuse was done to dad isn’t a good reason to commit abuse again. Sounds like a good opportunity to educate your son if that’s what he asks. Not to mention, I don’t think fathers and sons sit around comparing penises anyway…..

    2. If you’re thinking about your son’s mental health and fragile psyche then you absolutely should NOT circumcise. Yes, the procedure itself is one of the most barbaric things there is, as babies have been known to break through their straps attempting to escape that hellish nightmare. It can do a great deal of damage to the bond that’s supposed to form between the child and the adult who is supposed to protect him. But perhaps more importantly, the child has to grow up with the lesson that he was violated, permanently altered against his will, and that he doesn’t have the right to do what he wants with his own body. If he wants to be like daddy, he can make that choice for himself rather than having it forced on him. The idea that infancy is to only opportunity for circumcision is one of the biggest myths perpetrated by cutters.

    3. Actually, 80% of the world’s men are intact- circumcision is NOT routinely performed in Europe, Latin America, Asia and Australia. No medical organization recommends infant circumcision. I have NEVER heard of fathers and sons comparing their genitals. And which is easier to explain to a son 1. You were born perfect. We didn’t cut your penis” or 2. “We thought you had to match Daddy so we cut your penis”. #1 is ALWAYS easier to explain to a child. Especially as this generation will have access to education regarding the benefits of the male foreskin, they will be THANKFUL to learn they have their entire body!

  18. Omg love love!! Everything you said is what I’m always thinking! Thank you for writing this very accurate article I loved it! 😄

  19. I think it’s interesting how so many comments ask the author to cite references or prove or disprove a particular section of the article yet none of the comments provide their own statement of proof or citation beyond personal experience.

  20. I guess I was crunchy before “crunchy” was cool because I fit most of the criteria listed above as a young momma of two boys. Those were among the best years of my life! I think so much of parenting is based on instinct. I don’t know why so many people fight so hard against what is truly the most natural thing to do. People think it’s natural to let a baby cry for the sake of sticking to a feeding schedule, sleeping schedule, play schedule. It’s the most ridiculous thing that I have ever heard! How about you pay attention to your baby and the cues that he/she is giving you? There is a natural rhythm to life. Embrace it! You will never regret cuddling with a fussy baby who just needed his momma or daddy. You are giving your baby the security he/she needs and building trust for the years ahead. The sleepless nights of infancy will fade away, only to emerge again as your children become teenagers who work, drive, and begin to live more independently in the world. As you hold your baby, build curiousity in your toddler, foster creativity in your children, know that those those times are so precious and fleeting. Before you know it, they are grown up. Cherish these precious times. It truly does happen in a blink!

  21. Thank you for changing your wording. Please check your link however. The study shows that progression to type 2 can sometimes be avoided, not recurrence of GD.

    Intrestedpostcrunch – that’s just the nature of logic. If I say unicorns exist, it’s my job to prove it, not your job to disprove it.

  22. Please don’t tell people they have caused their GD. Would you tell someone they’d caused their cancer? Paleo diets aren’t especially high in saturated fats, though they can be fatty diets – but do you know what – fats are great for stabalizing sugar levels! Please look at gestationaldiabetes.co.uk for up to date info.

  23. Dear Author,
    Bravo to you and your passion. Very well written article that I will share with our 35,000 followers. I am Dr. Heather Wolfson DC, of The Drs Wolfson, mother of two currently aged 4 and 9, who were home birthed, still co-slept with, one is intact, still nursing the 4 1/2 year old, and only eat 100% organic/Paleo foods. My husband is the author of the best selling book, The Paleo Cardiologist. Continue doing what you are doing. Contact me please. http://www.thedrswolfson.com

  24. I am a seasoned mom who has had 6 children, and I can say I have experienced the gamut of childbirth and parenting choices and experiences. From natural to c-section, from breastfeeding to exclusively pumping, from co-sleeping to not, I have made a lot of choices based on what was best for my children and my sanity. What I hear when I read your blog is a mom who thinks she has it all figured out, and I can assure you, until you have walked in another’s shoes, you just may not ever be able to understand the circumstances a mother faces when choosing to formula feed or have a c section. Your tone is arrogant and self-righteous, even in your responses where you say, “I’m sorry YOU took it that way” as opposed to “I’m sorry I offended you.” I think you would be a lot more effective at educating moms (which is what you claim you want to happen) by using kindness, compassion, and empathy rather than sweeping generalizations based on your own opinions and experiences. I had GD with my first pregnancy, and I blamed myself for weeks. I struggled with it so much, and despite following a very strict diet and exercising daily, I even had to go on insulin. What took me a very long time to process and realize is that it wasn’t anything that I had done. It wasn’t my diet, my health, or any other choice I had made. It was simply how my body reacted to my pregnancy. Literally 30 minutes after I delivered my baby, my sugar levels were back to normal. Also, I did have a c-section because my second baby was, in fact, too large for me to deliver. He was 10 pounds. And while some mothers have delivered 10 pound babies or larger, my body was not going to cooperate. Rather than question my decision or argue with me about how I was actually misinformed or uneducated, just accept that sometimes c sections are necessary to save the baby and/or the mom. And sometimes, it just isn’t even worth risking a life to prove a point.

    What is most amazing to me is the ease in which you say these things when hiding behind the anonymity of a keyboard. Would you really look at any of these mothers whom you don’t know and tell them they are making the wrong choices? Would you walk up to a mother who is formula feeding her baby and tell her that she should be breastfeeding? Would you tell a mother who has GD that if she had just made better choices, then she could have avoided it? Would you tell a mother who gives her child a pacifier after she nurses him that she should just nurse him longer instead? Would you stop the mother in the bathroom changing her baby’s diaper and tell her she should not have mutilated her child’s penis? Of course not. But it is easy to say those things when you don’t see the person who is reading it on the other end. A new mom who is devastated that she didn’t get to experience a vaginal childbirth (regardless of the reason). A mom who breastfed her first two children, but can’t seem to get her third to latch and is exhausted and done. A mom who is pregnant with her second child and just found out she has GD and is terrified of how it will impact her child. A mom who just buried her child last week that died while sleeping in her bed.

    You can have your opinions. And some of them may even be backed up by research. But don’t forget, your readers are real mamas who have real feelings and are all just trying to do the best they can. Educate them. Don’t judge them.

    1. Nicole, this article is titled, “5 Reasons Why *I* Am Not A Crunchy Mom.” Not why everyone should be, or why you should be, etc. As a matter of fact, the point of this article isn’t even about persuading “everyone” to breastfeed, home birth, etc. It’s about why I think it’s ironic that we label people who do these things because of how naturally human natured they are, for lack of a better word. I chose my wording carefully. I didn’t say every single woman with GD can prevent it with diet. I said for many (not all) it can be regulated and avoided and then iprovided a link to a study that shows the correlation between gd and diet and lifestyle. Of course, nothing is 100%, 100% of the time. I am actually really tired of being ridiculed for writing about evidence based birth and parenting practices because someone always has to tell me it didn’t work for them. I never claimed it worked for everyone, just for most low risk women (which I stated twice in my article). You also can only assume my tone, which is a disadvantage to reading something online, but also something I can’t control. People who have residual feelings left over from their birth, or nursing relationship, etc are going to be triggered. I get it. But I’m passionate about pregnancy and parenting. I’ve studied it for 6 years and I’m not going to stop talking about it because some people have c sections. Actually, a lot of people do which is precisely why I speak out, but I digress. You say I am hiding behind my keyboard but I am very public about my beliefs and it’s not easy. No, I wouldn’t approach a mother and tell her to stop using formula because that’s not effective and I don’t have the time to do that to everyone, which is why I use writing as a platform. To reach more people in a less abrasive way. And besides that, I didn’t even say that I am against formula feeding in this article. You’re only assuming. People can choose to come read this to get information. They cannot choose if I’m approaching them in real life. I will not be able to please everyone. This I know. But this is my page and I do want to defend myself when I feel I am being misunderstood.

    2. This is the best comment that I’ve read here. I whole heartedly agree with you, Nicole. The author’s tone and inability to take credit for her opinions being abrasive and never taking herself off of her self imposed pedistal is worrisome. I work with plenty mothers who could’ve been severely harmed or even have died as a result of this kind of thinking.

      I myself didn’t have gd during any of my pregnancies, but I know that there are moms out there who follow very strict high vegan lifestyles who ended up with it.

      Regarding birth, not all women are capable of having home births, and to imply that they are is naive and ignorant. My first two were born in a birthing center. I had virtually no intervention in those pregnancies. Their births were beautiful and natural…by twins were however c.secs., because we would’ve died had I not, as one was transverse and the other was breach. The one on top was literally sitting on top of the other’s back, as he was laying across my pelvis. There is no was that that birth would’ve happened naturally. In the country where I am from, many women birth naturally in the countryside only to die because they could not get their baby out. In fact, my mom called me to tell me not so many months ago, about a young mom who does in childbirth, her and the baby because the baby got stuck by its head and during natural child birth. My last baby was in a hospital setting, and although he was not a csec, I was glad that I was there because after nearly two weeks of labor, and over 30 hours of labor in a hospital setting, his heart rate was dropping and he was in danger of dying. I was once a mama with fire like you, and had much to prove to the word – until life knocked me down a few notches and reminded me that we don’t always have all of the answers – especially when we are using them to make generally blanketed statements. I came here to read this article with the intention of learning something new, but what I found instead is a young mom who is still naive to the fact that there are many different avenues in life. A long time ago, when I was in a similar space as you: proud, full of the self taught knowledge that came with the new high of motherhood, the passionate ability to use my words to convince people, I learned the hard way, that no matter how much I know, life and it’s ability to show me something new, in the form of forced learned experience always trumps my ego…and I’ve since left with the lesson that kindness trumps knowledge any day. Doesn’t mean that you’re wrong or right, but the women that you’re trying to educate, won’t listen to a word you’re saying when it’s colored with self imposed judgment…and yes, it’s easy to say that judgment is necessary, and that you do it because of xyz, but I’ve been around enough to know, have enough kids to know, and have coached, mentored and helped enough moms and children to know that the judgment that I thought that I was putting on them, was in reality a judgment that I was feeling within, projected without. Perfectionism combined with ego, gives us some really harsh life lessons – especially when coupled with the inability to admit when one is being less than compassionate or empathetic to those around them. I sincerely hope that this is not the case for you though, because I would not wish any mom to have to go through the things that I went through, due to my back then know it all attitude. At this point, I’ve learned two things that I would like to leave with you: 1) not everything that one thinks one has to say. 2) humility, kindness and that ability to look within and admit that one is wrong, makes one stronger that standing one’s ground.

      1. Violet, your comment makes it clear to me that you didn’t read my article. Or if you did, you’re ignoring it and inputting your own story.

        “Not all women are capable of having home births, and to imply they are is naive and ignorant.”

        This is beyond frustrating at this point. This article is written about why *I* chose these things. Not why everyone should. Not to mention, I emphasized home birth only for low risk women not once, but TWICE….TWICE…in the article. To say I’m suggesting everyone have a baby at home is blatantly ignoring the article and I ask to refrain from commenting until you’ve read it. If it seems like I’m losing patience with being told that I’m saying something that I am clearly not, it’s because I am.

      2. Also, proving evidence based information doesn’t mean one is lacking in humility and kindness. Dancing around very important issues to keep people’s feelings safe isn’t kind. I have no problem admitting when I am wrong when I have made a mistake. I stand by the information I provided in the article. I am sorry for women who have lost children. It has to be the worst pain, and that’s precisely why I do what I do. Infant and mother mortality is the highest in the U.S. than all other developed nations. We are a very sick country because of our ideas about what health is. Something is deeply flawed here. So no, I won’t shut up to keep the peace. I know some women can’t breastfeed. That’s why I want to help…because I don’t believe that all those women are broken. I believe they’re misled and unsupported, for the most part.

  25. Must be an American thing. None of these things are considered “crunchy” here (U.K.). Especially not having bits of your son chopped off.

  26. Gahhh!!! So many thoughts after reading your article PLUS all the comments! Has to be very exhausting for you responding to all these commenters lashing out in anger which you know is sadness! I remember struggling to breast feed in the beginning weeks & I just felt like the biggest failure that I couldn’t feed my baby- my only job! I’m sure these moms are, like you said, hearing through their emotions. Bravo for bringing them back to the point no matter how many times you have to repeat yourself.

    I completely agree with your entire article. I am a crunchy mom by every definition you mentioned & I have found myself identifying to the label just recently to find “my tribe.” I wasn’t sure how else you weed through all the overload of information & people out there. I hear your frustration over the fact that we’re called “crunchy” though over things that just seem like common sense or HUMAN INSTINCT, but not sure many people even know what that is anymore when it comes to parenting. Before I found the label I just described myself as a mom who had a daughter 4 years ago that changed my world. I learned through pregnancy how to trust my body, my instincts, & the Creator who made my body to birth & its led me on a great journey into motherhood. I am one of those low risk moms who had wonderful births at home with exceptional midwives, twice. And if I had a nickel for every time someone told me how brave I am for birthing at home or their baby would have died if not in the hospital… blah blah blah… I don’t care to hear it anymore, I just start telling them my true thoughts. “I’m more scared to give birth in a hospital for unwanted interventions.” And “in my personal experience, the friends I know with the most interventions are the ones telling me their babies almost died.” I’m over nodding my head pretending I agree with their naive comments… I’m not quite at the level of putting it in print for people to get heated over (or I guess maybe I am), but I’m starting small & letting my Crunch Flag Fly! 😉

  27. I read your wonderful article as well as each and every comment…Wow! I will tell you, it takes a strong constitution to write about one’s own experience that bucks the “status quo” of our highly-propaganda-ized society and then have to fight against the wave of “you are so insensitive”-mindset without completely losing your shit. I commend you for not buckling under the pressure. I’m afraid I’d be a nervous wreck in your shoes, if I had written this piece (even though I have just as strong of convictions as you on these issues).

    Please know that there are some others like you who, despite how it feels, completely understand the POINT of your article. We know you aren’t hating on moms who have had different experiences, but rather trying to call out how silly it is that those of us who consider non-natural interventions to be well…non-natural must be unduly “labeled,” as if letting normal processes proceed unhindered is so “weird.”

    People tend to be highly offend-able these days…and for some reason think that it sounds preachy when a blogger blogs about something that doesn’t ring true for them. The internet is full of eggshell-hearts, but obviously if everyone walks and talks so lightly that no one is offended, then perhaps the status quo will never change. So say what you have to say with confidence. We all know that you can’t make everyone happy anyway…and who would want to?

    In the end, words are just ways of expressing oneself…so if someone calls me a granola, whatevs, I’m not going to freak out, but god forbid that we should remind mainstreamers that labels are just a way to dismiss a person or sum them up without really knowing them at all. (*And yes, I used the term “mainstreamers” as a label…tongue-in-cheek, people!)

    From one regular run-of-the-mill do-what-the-body-does-best kind of mother to another…keep on keeping on.

  28. I LOVE this article. I am totally with you on the diabetes thing. I think many people dont even know what a healthy diet is or real exercise even is. Home birth is not for everyone, I think a woman needs to feel emotionally safe whereever she is giving birth to have the best outcome. My last child was born at home. He wears cloth diapers. Not because im crunchy, but because Im actually poor. Hospitals treat poor people like crap, and diapers are expensive.

  29. I guess I was “partly crunchy” before we defined what crunchy is! I thought your article was refreshing…giving moms encouragement to trust themselves!!! Not just follow someone’s rules.
    I thought you did a great job of choosing your words carefully. While I was reading it, before I read any comments, I honestly thought, “wow, she is trying really hard to phrase everything in a way that won’t offend!!!!” Then I read the comments. Boy, was I wrong.
    I am a nurse and an IBCLC, lactation consultant, in a hospital setting. There are so many emotions and expectations around childbirth and child rearing in our culture. I, too, get to deal with different expectation, different cultures, etc, etc…..it’s not easy, but we sill try to educate by what we know now. It’s clear you did not “intend” to offend, but you have little control over people “taking” offense…. I think you’re handling it very well. Don’t be discouraged. It’s your story. Others have other stories. They can tell theirs if they want.

  30. I guess I was “partly crunchy” before we defined what crunchy is! I thought your article was refreshing…giving moms encouragement to trust themselves!!! Not just follow someone’s rules.
    I thought you did a great job of choosing your words carefully. While I was reading it, before I read any comments, I honestly thought, “wow, she is trying really hard to phrase everything in a way that won’t offend!!!!” Then I read the comments. Boy, was I wrong.
    I am a nurse and an IBCLC, lactation consultant, in a hospital setting. There are so many emotions and expectations around childbirth and child rearing in our culture. I, too, get to deal with different expectation, different cultures, etc, etc…..it’s not easy, but we sill try to educate by what we know now. It’s clear you did not “intend” to offend, but you have little control over people “taking” offense…. I think you’re handling it very well. Don’t be discouraged. It’s your story. Others have other stories. They can tell theirs if they want.

  31. Great Read!

    Kudos to you for sticking up for what you believe in. I’m seriously questioning some people’s reading abilities after flowing through the comments here… Not once were you imposing your beliefs on others, you were essentially delivering a monologue regarding the decisions you’ve made for yourself. I found this to be thoughtfully worded so as not to presume any/all of this “crunchy” stuff would work for everyone.

    Your article was very well written, and although I may not personally adopt all of your own personal choices as my own, I am perfectly capable of differentiating the difference between imposing ones belief on others versus illustrating alternative thoughts.

    What is very important here is that you are putting yourself out there and made yourself vulnerable to the world. By the looks of it you’ve received a lot of flack, which I don’t really feel is justified. You’re merely putting your information out there to be heard whereas others have chosen to voice a personal attack on you because they did not agree with your own personal statements. Alternative thinking folks. Get used to it. Embrace it.

    As my Opa used to say “the world would be a pretty boring place if everyone were the same”. And with that, I thank you for your differences! They have shed some light on me.

    Cheers!

  32. This article is misleading – you ARE a “crunchy” mom, at least in the aspects/categories that you’ve listed. While you may not like the label that’s been stamped by our society, it is the same argument as other things such as these two:

    – Organic/Non-GMO foods. To many people that purchase organic foods, they consider themselves to be doing the “normal” thing and argue that their foods shouldn’t be labeled, but instead the chemical-sprayed foods should be labeled. They would rather our communities learn to eat food naturally and with gratitude for what nature has produced for us.
    – “Vegans”. To many people that choose not to participate in the slaughtering of other lives in the meat industry, the consumption of dead carcasses, or use of leather/wool/silk/etc goods, they would rather be considered the norm and not the 3%. They would rather the rest of the population see the true disconnect we have today and learn the environmental impacts that are had from our massive + unsustainable consumption.

    We should also clarify that the word “normal” is defined as conforming to a standard. Most of what you’ve listed is not normal, not these days.

    But history repeats itself – everything is cyclical. Crunchy is a trend that will in time begin the norm, and then will slowly slip from that status while we enter new generations of the cycle, and crunchy things will begin its dormancy.

    As more people learn and adapt a new (actually, old) way of doing things, it does become trendy. So embrace that you are labeled by others as “crunchy”, even if you don’t like to call yourself that.

    1. I agree, and I don’t really have a huge problem with the label. Just a minor one. It’s called clickbait. Mama gotta get paid somehow 😉

  33. Hi,
    I’m with ya! I don’t want to be called “crunchy”. I would rather be called an awesome mom. lol!
    We’re just doing the things we know are right because those are the things that keep our children healthy, happy, and safe AND they work. We are the ultimate momming machines with built in care-systems that seem to know right from wrong 😉
    …more often than not.

    Great blog, gives me something to aspire to.

    Thanks!

  34. Yes! 😍 I love everything you wrote in this article! It’s really annoying that people feel the need to label us in an attempt to make us seem weird when what we do is normal. I can’t wait to share your article!

  35. I’m sure many woman can breastfeed beyond six months, but many woman also have to go back to work, and it’s just not always possible to work full time and continue to breastfeed also. Maybe if we had more paid maternity leave, like in Canada they have a year, then breast feeding rates would be higher?

    1. That is definitely part of the problem but I also see that issue goes deeper. Maybe I’ll blog about it? 😉

  36. I did all those things way before someone called them ‘crunchy’! And if I feel like changing my mind about something as well, I will. Actually we are normal, not crunchy. By the way, contraceptives are not normal either. Or abortion. Free yourself of it all. Sex makes babies- have LOTS of them and you’ll upset them even me. I don’t need to find a village to raise a child: I birthed a village! LOL. Half true.

  37. I just love you and I feel exactly the same. We must speak out and remind all women it is OK to do what your instinct tells you feels good and right.

  38. A home birth really isn’t the safest option for everyone including those who are ‘low risk’. I was considered ‘low risk’ had an easy trouble free pregnancy and everything about my daughters birth went smoothly and with minimal intervention supported by midwives who promoted natural birthing positions untill the very end when the placenta came out as normal but I continued bleeding. My uterus did not contract as it is meant to and the Dr thinks I lost over 2 liters of blood. If I hadn’t been at the hospital its likely I would have died. I needed 2 blood transfusions. There was no way of knowing that was going to happen prior to the birth and I feel really greatful that I am here and able to enjoy my beautiful little girl.

    1. So you had a natural birth? I also bled at home and midwives have the same medicine the doctors gave you to stop yours.

  39. Thank you for writing so many wonderful articles! I’ve been going through them in the past days and sharing them on my parenting page. I love having such a great source of natural parenting articles that beautifully express my perspective on the same subjects. Your voice is so needed!

  40. I just have to tell you how beautifully put you wrote this out. I am so frustrated by people. It breaks my heart to see people not live this way, not understand this is the natural order of things, and think it “weird.” This is how we were created, and we functioned perfectly like this for a very, very long time. It angers me that people just don’t get it. Again, thank you, and awesome article!

  41. This is a good article. After reading the comments I feel sad that so many people felt judged. I am a co-sleeping, breastfeeding ‘hippy’ mum that had 3 c-secs (won’t go into it). I don’t feel that you would judge me, I feel you are trying to educate the future, rather than judge the past.
    My family eats an organic diet, yet I would say that no-one eats ‘healthy’ it’s hard to be constantly sourcing produce veggie fruit meat etc that is of a good standard. Claiming to have ‘a healthy diet’ is a big call! I say ‘I eat pretty good’ although probably exceptional compared to most, I like the odd glass or biodynamic wine or some raw chocolate, so I ain’t keeping a high horse in my stable yet. Everyone has room to improve, and therefore, should keep trying, it’s a lifelong process.
    I think society generally live only with the mind, neglecting the primal connection. If you read this article with a primal mind, no matter what you agree/disagree with, you could never feel judged.
    In the pursuit of keeping the ‘being’ in wellbeing, read to evoke your thought, detach yourself from the content and either take something from it and evolve, or move onto something else.